Let’s say you get lucky enough to make the beginning of a connection. Problem solved, right? Now maybe you have a girlfriend? Well, it’s not that simple. You’ve got to shovel constant effort and maintenance into that relationship. You’ve got to worry about impressing her enough, each and every time, to be able to get another date with her. This means you’ll have to spend a lot more money taking her out to dinner, buying her cards and flowers, and doing other things intended to pass the ongoing audition so you can always secure that next date. Fail at any time, disappoint her in any way, and it’s over for you. Suddenly she won’t answer your texts or your calls and she’s always busy if she picks up by mistake. Then you’ve got nothing to show for all the time and money you’ve spent You might think, “Well, I’ll just turn to Internet dating.” Sure, there are lots of guys who do that. Maybe they are tired of the bar scene and the whole nightclub thing, and they’ve decided that maybe it would be better to meet women online through a computer dating service. There are certainly plenty of those out there, and there are also hook up sites and services. The hookup sites and apps don’t make any real pretense of finding you someone to date, or connecting you with someone with whom you’ll see some kind of deep and meaningful connection. Instead they just put people who are all in the market for sex into a shallow kind of competition pool where “swiping right” or “swiping left” makes the difference between meeting up with someone or not meeting up with someone.trying to make this all happen.